So you got the number! That’s awesome! I can’t express how happy I am for you… but I have some bad news.

The game has just begun.

A number is unfortunately, in itself, worthless. It’s only a point of contact. What you do with the number is vastly more important and can be the deciding factor in whether you ever see this girl again.

Most importantly is what you do with the first attempt at contact.

A fellow budding seducer recently had this exact problem.

“So if you guys didn’t know already I got my first # close. Feels awsome but anyways, what do I do next? I sent her “Hey its *name removed*. If you’re free tomorrow u can show me around or something.” Only problem with that text is I don’t know if she actually got it and didn’t get a reply. Should I call her in a few days or what? Im just excited I got a number from a hottie”

We’ve all been there, but we must get past this excitement… so what could he have done better? Lets break this down.

“Hey its *name removed*”

There is no mystery, no intrigue, no hook here. It’s so run of the mill no wonder why she didn’t reply. Think of it this way, someone who’s familiar with her and confident in himself would never say “hey it’s Chris”. Assume she knows who you are and leave that part out, it’s unnecessary and works against you.

“If you’re free tomorrow..”

You’re setting yourself up for an “I’m busy” response here. Instead of trying to snipe out a specific date to meet with her before checking her schedule…. ask her what her schedule is like.

But even more importantly you’re asking for logistics too quickly. You have to remember she’s in a different state then when you first met her so you have to bring her back to that place. Make her feel good about you again so she knows that you can do it consistently instead of it just being a matter of luck for you. On top of that she’s gonna be more likely to agree to a date with you if you put her in a good, playful mood.

“u can show me around…”

This is just terrible. You’re the man, you lead the date. A girl doesn’t want to show a guy around town unless she’s SUPER into him. You show her around town. If you’re new to the city figure out the cool spots in a real hurry and start using “I heard this place was cool and wanna check it out”. Stay off the beaten track when you’re trying to pull this off.

Either way this is just weak language, attitude and just poor form in general.

Remember, as men we lead. Don’t put the reins in her hands or else you won’t get anywhere. Be a man.

“or something.”

The final nail in the coffin. After you put her in the drivers seat you hedge your bets and say the worst thing you could say short of “I dunno, what do you wanna do”. “Or something” is uncertainty, insecurity and simply feminine behaviour. This is death, remove this shit from your vocabulary immediately.

So what’s the proper structure/execution of an opening text?

Short, assuming, intriguing and encouraging but not requiring a response.

Short – Keep it brief, remove punctuation and unnecessary wording. The idea is we’re trying to keep it punchy – short and high impact.

Assuming – Assume she’s already your lover, your best friend, play with her, tease her and don’t say shit like “Hey it’s *name removed*”.

Intriguing – Seed unanswered information. Hint at something that might be exciting but don’t give away the farm, leave her imagination wondering. Create open loops.

Encouraging but not requiring a response – This is important, if you ask questions or structure your texts in a manner that directly provokes information from her you will lose tremendous amounts of value if she doesn’t respond. “How’s your day going?” will lose you a lot of points in her subconscious mind if she doesn’t respond, “I’m having such an awesome day today. Nothing like a walk around downtown to start the afternoon! Hope you’re enjoying the weather!” on the other hand doesn’t require a response but it encourages her input.

So using these 4 principles, what are some good examples of opening texts to send?

“Omg just saw your twin!”
“Something made me thing about you”
“You won’t believe what just happened!”
“Ugh had too wild of a night lastnight, nothing like a powerade to cure the hangover! Hope you had as much fun as I did”

Keep in mind that this is only the beginning aspect of text game but for the rest of it just remember, escalate. Don’t try to jump steps, don’t go for the date without priming her with good feelings and playful conversation first.

Don’t throw this number away yet. Text her again using the previous principles in about a week or so. Don’t be afraid to be persistent.

And remember, a number is worthless for a million and one reasons, it’s what you do with it that matters. This is the first of HUNDREDS for you, so remember to take a learners attitude for follow up game because it’s gonna take a lot of practice. And if a number bombs, don’t worry about it… learn the lesson and try again in a week or just move on to a new prospect!

As a final note I want to talk about texting vs. calling a number.

Simply, call her up if you’re confident that while you’re on the phone with her you will be able to:

• Maintain your composure and not come off nervously
• Not stutter or mix up your words
• Move towards your goal of developing the contact and getting a date

If you don’t think you can do this stick to text, it’s generally better. Why? Well ask yourself this, when you’re getting ready to call a girl up whose number you just got how do you feel? Probably really nervous. Texting is better than phone because on the phone you’re going to be nervous, stutter, and generally make yourself look like anything but the man you presented yourself as in the first place.

Texting allows you to formulate responses, take your time, be methodical, test response rates and deliver your message in the intended tone.

Stumble it!