I just spent the most fantastic weekend at the 21 Convention in Orlando! It’s been so great to see all my friends who are globetrotting and doing amazing things to revolutionize the way the seduction industry operates. It’s very rare for someone to have an understanding of the job I have and it’s always nice to shoot the shit with my boys about the different aspects of the profession.

On top of all of that I get to help a massive amount of men develop themselves as opposed to doing the one on one’s that I’ve been working on these days. I always say that I’m just trying to change the world one person at a time… but if I can reach 100’s or thousands all at once then I’m all for that opportunity! I actually gave away a free 45-minute consultation during my speech and it turns out that the very next night after sitting down with me the guy lost his virginity! It’s stories like this that make me proud to be doing what I am. Definitely will be linking you to my speech when it goes up.

Sitting here in a Starbucks in boring Jacksonville, NC has given me a chance to reflect on the various parts of the convention and I wanted to talk to you guys about the one question I got asked more than anything else during the last 4 days.

What is the biggest issue you see when you’re dealing with clients in the field?

The answer immediately jumps out at me. Escalation.

I don’t just mean physical escalation either, although everyone who I train consistently doesn’t escalate fast enough physically. What I mean is consistently moving the interaction in a forward motion.

If you aren’t moving forward, you’re going backward.

Memorize those words and make them eternally part of your vocabulary.

Let’s say for a second that you approach a woman and get her interested in you. It’s not a terribly difficult thing to do as long as you have the baseline fundamentals in place. If you don’t move the interaction forward, if you don’t act on that attraction what do you think is going to happen?

I’ll tell you exactly what happens, she will get bored and think you’re a fraud and then she will leave. It’s that simple. Women will never hate you for moving forward too quickly. She will, however, view you as the biggest pussy on the planet if you don’t move forward at all. And there’s nothing less attractive and more despicable to a woman then a guy who acts like a pussy.

The problem is that there are two kinds of anxiety every guy will face when he’s beginning to learn game. Approach anxiety is obviously the first but there’s another one that no one else really talks about. Escalation (aka sexual) anxiety.

Escalation anxiety is the harder of the two to deal with for a very simple reason. You can put yourself in hundreds of situations where you’re dealing with approach anxiety in no less than a few weeks. Escalation anxiety however is harder to break because of the simple truth that it’s harder to move far enough into the interaction to learn to deal with it. There are simply less opportunities to shatter this anxiety.

However, there is a simple way to force yourself to move forward and constantly keep yourself accountable and aware of doing so.

I call it the three questions for seamless escalation. (Catchy, I know.)

By constantly asking yourself these three questions throughout the interaction you’re going to be reminding yourself and teaching yourself how to escalate in a smooth, consistent manner.

So enough with the wait, I present the secret for how I escalate the interaction seamlessly and why I’ve become known for quick and consistent escalation.

Where am I at?

Where do I need to be?

How do I get there?

Seems simple enough but there’s a reason for each of these questions.

First of all, where am I at? If you have a GPS with a destination plugged in, you still need a starting location to get directions. If I’m talking to a girl and want to move forward I need to analyze where I’m at so I can make the appropriate action to move forward. Lets create a simple example… I’m talking to the girl I want. Good, now we know where we’re starting at.

Obviously that’s not enough though, that’s the easy (but necessary) part. Now I need to figure out where I need to be. Following the previous example the next logical step would be to begin and escalate touch. Taking another example of sitting at the bar drinking a beer and seeing a girl who inspires me across the bar this step would take on the form of I need to be over there talking to her. But once again, that’s not quite enough to take action.

I need to figure out how I’m going to get there. This is where the GPS navigation takes you to your goal. So if I’m still sitting at the bar drinking a beer, and I need to be across the bar talking to that girl, I obviously need to take a few baby steps to get there. The first being standing up, then putting one foot in front of another until I’m standing next to her and then finally opening my mouth and saying something.

This applies to the whole process of seduction and is a tool to remind yourself to escalate. You can make it as simple or as intricate as you need it to be but the general idea always remains the same, figure out where you’re at, where you need to be and how you’re going to get there. Otherwise you’re going to have no direction and you’re going to make no progress towards your end goal, whatever that might be.

Stumble it!